Looking from the outside, you would think when someone finally escapes an abusive relationship, the worst is over. No more emotional blackmail or physical violence. And with the source of the hurt removed, healing can begin. This is one reason it takes the average survivor of intimate partner violence seven times to leave for good.
But even after your ex is out of your life, sometimes the emotional and mental effects from experiencing abuse can linger on. You may experience feelings of depression, guilt, anger, loss and even symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder: Anxiety Being easily frightened or scared Avoiding of stressful triggers that remind you of abuse Difficulty maintaining relationships Feeling emotionally numb There is no one way to feel or heal after you leave an abusive relationship.
It may be hard to stop thinking about your old relationship. Your ex was wrong by the way. You may even think about the nice things that they said and the good times that you had with them. Being in an abusive relationship, or leaving and getting back together more than once which is very common can hurt your self-esteem and make you doubt yourself.
The important thing to remember is that you did leave and that took a lot of strength. Now it is time to channel your courage into healing and getting back to being a happy and healthy you.
The first step toward recovering from any type of traumatic experience is re-establishing your sense of safety.
Stability looks different for different people. Second, give yourself some time to grieve. There are lots of healthy ways you can do this — journaling, writing poetry or songs, creating art, exercising or dancing. In addition to being expressive, all of these activities can slowly help to restore your sense of power over your own life.
They can remind you of your strengths and the beautiful things you are capable of creating. Finally, you reconnect with ordinary life. It can be difficult to remember what life was like before an abusive relationship.
You may feel emotionally closed off, and it can be hard to trust people again. Your ex-partner may have even physically isolated you from your friends and family, and you feel you have no one to turn to or that nobody could understand what you have been through.
There are always people to help. You Deserve to Feel Great! Although it may difficult, this is the time that you need to focus on you and your own happiness. You never did anything to cause this and you deserve to be happy and feel safe. What you went through is not who you are.
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